The Weekly List - Housecleaning my mind

Saturday, July 27, 2013
1. When I choose an action, I choose the consequence of that action. And this rule applies to everyone else, too.
2. Even if I know someone to be a horrible human being, even if I know their shortcomings are demonstrable and beyond dispute, I still cannot expect others to share my opinion of them, especially if I have chosen not to share all the facts about how I have formed my opinion. People have the right to make up their own minds.
3. People aren't perfect. And love doesn't require them to be.
4. Again, I am not the only competent person in the room.
5. The reason I get so wrapped around the axle about my personal relationships is because my personal relationships are critically important to me. If I didn't care about the people I choose to share my life, they wouldn't have the power to hurt me so.
6. Expecting others to recognize my virtues is not admirable. It should be enough that I continue to work on being a better person for my own sake.
7. It's hard not to compare myself to others, but I need to concentrate on health and fitness, not weight.
8. While it's true that Information Technology is kind of a life-force sucking endeavor, it's the industry I've chosen, and pays the bills with room to spare. It behooves me to remember this truth. 
9. Relative to item 4, it's not my responsibility to solve other people's problems. People have agency, and are capable of managing their own business.
10. While being used fills me alternately with impotent rage and regret that I didn't see it coming, the responsibility for the bad behavior does not in fact lie with me, and I need to remember that.

5 comments:

Carol Elaine said...

Yes, yes, yes to all of this.

But, perhaps not surprisingly, #7 is the one that really rings true for me at this point of my life.

Weight is just a number and I know this. I compare myself to others - both larger and smaller - and I think, "Ooh, I like that body and I wish I had it," or "Wow, I'm really glad I don't have that body."

This is unfair to others and it's unfair to me.

Since I've taken control of my fitness and health by exercising damned near every day (even if it's just for 30 minutes), I find myself able to do things I haven't been able to do in about 10-15 years.

THAT is exciting to me. THAT is what I really love about this process. I've lost less than 20 lbs, but my body is rewarding me for making sure I get out and move it on a regular basis and I am absolutely LOVING that.

I have a long way to go before I get to the fitness level I want to have. Truthfully, I don't know if I'll ever get there, due to injuries and ailments I didn't have 10-15 years ago. But I'm not going to stop trying.

Janiece said...

Carol, I hear you.

Being CAPABLE within the limits of our health issues is something we call aspire to. If I have to put limits on my activities someday due to injury or illness, I don't want it to be because I was too lazy to take of the only instrument I have for carrying around my mind.

Anne C. said...

Yes. This is all true.

Warner said...

Janiece, unless you are far luckier than I, #4 is often a problem. You are the only competent person in the room.

Trying to explain physics to a VP, who in her day was an excellent business manager, can lead to frustration, especially as what she wants is not possible.

Negative power out of a TV transmitter?

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