tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9112925820320944611.post2155539846897055705..comments2024-03-19T03:18:54.509-06:00Comments on Hot Chicks Dig Smart Men: No Means NoJaniecehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06223994862015217811noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9112925820320944611.post-56226824069956643772007-12-20T21:11:00.000-07:002007-12-20T21:11:00.000-07:00MWT, it may be a mother thing, but I sure hope to ...MWT, it may be a mother thing, but I sure hope to avoid it once my kids are on their own. <BR/><BR/>No doubt about it. No=good.Janiecehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14190655869710465713noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9112925820320944611.post-66138148970353153342007-12-20T17:22:00.000-07:002007-12-20T17:22:00.000-07:00My mother definitely thinks I'm incapable of indep...My mother definitely thinks I'm incapable of independent life. She still gets all gushy impressed whenever she sees me do something that demonstrates it - along the lines of praising a clever toddler. Even if it's something I've been doing as a matter of routine for years. I always figured it was a mother thing. ;)MWThttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09446603415730525882noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9112925820320944611.post-63111672411772308172007-12-20T17:03:00.000-07:002007-12-20T17:03:00.000-07:00I used to be terrible about this--and it got me in...I used to be terrible about this--and it got me into a lot of stupid/bad/dangerous situations. (Oh, your acquaintance who's in an abusive relationship wants to leave? I'll help. ... Gee, how is it that I am the <I>only</I> person the jackass ends up recognizing?)<BR/><BR/>Anymore, I can't think of anyone who could possibly ask me for anything that I wouldn't jump to help them, mostly because the only jerk I deal with on a regular basis is my mom, and I'll help her for my dad's sake. <BR/><BR/>My Dad's side of the family is pretty awesome, so it makes me happy whenever I can help someone, because they've done so much to help me in the past.<BR/><BR/>But to circle back around, it took me quite awhile to learn that lesson that NO is a good word to learn.Random Michelle Khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13817444379694818074noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9112925820320944611.post-34972443935294539972007-12-20T15:49:00.000-07:002007-12-20T15:49:00.000-07:00Jeri, I loved your comment regarding the assumptio...Jeri, I loved your comment regarding the assumption that as a 40+ year old woman, you're apparently incapable of making decisions that will result in the desired outcome without input from your "elders." <BR/><BR/>Hehe. <BR/><BR/>I don't know what we were thinking, assuming we were the architects of our own lives. Delusional, I guess.Janiecehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14190655869710465713noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9112925820320944611.post-25405038504644795402007-12-20T15:18:00.000-07:002007-12-20T15:18:00.000-07:00Amen, sister!I deal with family on both sides that...Amen, sister!<BR/><BR/>I deal with family on both sides that are total control freaks, completely unwilling to grant that a 40-something year old woman can make her own life and parenting decisions without asking for input. The ILs, especially, are loving, generous, and WAY demanding and intrusive.<BR/><BR/>And of course, there's always work, where increased time slicing usually results in greater productivity, right? ;)<BR/><BR/>So, this is something I am always, always working on. The perspective of control is really interesting, it gives me a lot of insight.Jerihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02473415569376925543noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9112925820320944611.post-60960779965478549852007-12-20T12:32:00.000-07:002007-12-20T12:32:00.000-07:00Amy, you know what's funny about your entry? The ...Amy, you know what's funny about your entry? The phrase "No means no. If people won't take no for an answer, they're trying to control you" came from an Oprah show. At least I think it did...it's been on the my list of "Things I need to learn, again and again and again" for many years. I also sent you a quick guide to italics and such. And yes, you've always been on my list of "always yes" people, and you always will. Unless you decide to pursue dogfighting or some such. I'm just sayin'.<BR/><BR/>MWT, I don't think your rant was half-baked. I thought it was insightful, and I'm glad to learn a bit more about you. And you are <EM>so right</EM> about people who accuse you of being selfish when you say no. From where I sit, it's just another way to try and leverage guilt to their own advantage. That particular tactic rarely works on me these days. My usual response? "Piss off."Janiecehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14190655869710465713noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9112925820320944611.post-55727713280846052282007-12-20T12:16:00.000-07:002007-12-20T12:16:00.000-07:00Italics: italicsbold: boldlink: textshit: uh, you'...<I>Italics:</I> < i >italics< / i ><BR/><B>bold:</B> < b >bold< / b ><BR/>link: < a href="url">text< / a ><BR/>shit: uh, you're on your own there, but I recommend a toilet.<BR/><BR/>I've found that people who refuse to take "no" for an answer will also often go on to accuse you of being selfish and ungrateful. It can get really annoying.<BR/><BR/>Also, this post reminds me of a <A HREF="http://nerwengreen.livejournal.com/1501.html" REL="nofollow">half-baked rant I wrote a while ago about respect of boundaries as a sign of maturity</A>.MWThttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09446603415730525882noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9112925820320944611.post-26377247305903977802007-12-20T12:00:00.000-07:002007-12-20T12:00:00.000-07:00Now why can't Oprah simmer it down this succinctly...Now why can't Oprah simmer it down this succinctly? Jeez, it takes her a whole hour to get this simple statement out. Janiece should go to Oprah and tell her to cut it short, sister.<BR/>I know many people that need to heed this credo. Just how exactly does everyone profit if you are trying to do a gajillion things and actually accomplish nothing?<BR/>Mom and Dad ask, I do. Brother? Probably, but he doesn't hardly email me as we live at opposite ends of teh country. Many others? Sorry, I have plans.......<BR/>Janiece? Rolled tacos? ANYTIME! Want me to fly them to you?<BR/>(note to self: pester Janiece to tell you the great secret to italics and bold and shit in this HTML format or whatever it is.)The Mechanicky Galhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00301818656158916179noreply@blogger.com