tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9112925820320944611.post5253346779370956950..comments2024-03-19T03:18:54.509-06:00Comments on Hot Chicks Dig Smart Men: On Work, Self-Worth and Being a Statistical OutlierJaniecehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06223994862015217811noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9112925820320944611.post-48351934089709628502011-09-28T16:47:52.483-06:002011-09-28T16:47:52.483-06:00In short, congratulations Janiece, you have mature...<em>In short, congratulations Janiece, you have matured!</em><br /><br />filelalaine, you have NO IDEA.Janiecehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06223994862015217811noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9112925820320944611.post-6676476117496629282011-09-28T16:41:58.799-06:002011-09-28T16:41:58.799-06:00I get the “what are the causes of my overachieveme...I get the “what are the causes of my overachievement?” question a lot. Oftentimes, barring other neurological or psychological defects which would necessitate a more thorough diagnosis, the underlying impetus is an unhealthy self-esteem. And more often than not, said poor self-esteem originates from the conditional love demonstrated by a parent or a person of importance in childhood, which made the person overachieve (the good-girl/good-boy syndrome) to earn their love. Even when, later in life, that is no longer the case, i.e. that person is long gone and the approval seeking is no longer necessary, the dysfunctional behavior continues because it has become part of the behavior-repertoire i.e. a habit that somehow got maintained by the positive reinforcement generated by the natural consequences of the behavior (praise for a job well done, raises, etc.). <br /><br />Far from being unusual, overachievement is however NOT a characteristic of a self- actualized individual. And admitting to it IS the first step to demonstrate independence from it.<br /><br />There is nothing wrong with “meeting expectations” and everything right with the foresight to prioritize your personal and professional lives. In short, congratulations Janiece, you have matured!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05477053024120321776noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9112925820320944611.post-27498032350439002322011-09-28T13:40:54.832-06:002011-09-28T13:40:54.832-06:00Yeah, the advantage to working below the poverty l...Yeah, the advantage to working below the poverty line is that every subsequent increase - to say, a living wage - seems huge.Janiecehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06223994862015217811noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9112925820320944611.post-83738712453071515072011-09-28T13:33:10.686-06:002011-09-28T13:33:10.686-06:00Yeah.
I gave up on perfection a few years ago. I&...Yeah.<br /><br />I gave up on perfection a few years ago. I'm in a field (science) where to be a superstar you have to work 80-hour weeks, and I have other things I'd like to do with my time. So I don't publish as much as some, and don't have the recognition, and I'm okay with that. (Mostly.)<br /><br />I too increased my salary by some ridiculous percentage (>500%), but only if you count grad school. PhD students make, yeah, basically nothing.<br /><br />But on the other hand, I just wrote up my annual accomplishments, and... let's just say that if I don't rate "Outstanding" there's something seriously wrong with the system. I knew I'd worked remarkably hard this year, but seeing it all on paper... wow. (Lost a scientist with whom I worked closely, couldn't replace him. You guess where his workload went.)Phialahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05604909119508288912noreply@blogger.com