tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9112925820320944611.post6598063674901069926..comments2024-03-19T03:18:54.509-06:00Comments on Hot Chicks Dig Smart Men: On the Nature of LoveJaniecehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06223994862015217811noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9112925820320944611.post-74839834189274484152008-04-08T21:02:00.000-06:002008-04-08T21:02:00.000-06:00Mom, I couldn't agree more. Sometimes I think the...Mom, I couldn't agree more. Sometimes I think the unloading of baggage is the purpose of self-discovery.<BR/><BR/>Michelle, you really are maniacal. Just sayin'.<BR/><BR/>MWT, I understand about duty. And there's honor in doing your duty, too. But untangling the web can be tricky, to be sure.Janiecehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14190655869710465713noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9112925820320944611.post-54552801418210226022008-04-08T20:51:00.000-06:002008-04-08T20:51:00.000-06:00In both cases, there is an expectation that we'll ...<I>In both cases, there is an expectation that we'll take care of each other, performing the acts that need to be done to ensure health and happiness. I also think a failure to perform those acts is a failure of love - if you don't do what's necessary, then you don't love the person, regardless of what you say.</I><BR/><BR/>There's also this part. Not all families are like that. And sometimes what should be an act of love, and appears to be an act of love, is really just an act of pure duty. Which has its own interesting conundrums to wrestle with, because expectations aren't always the same as reality.MWThttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09446603415730525882noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9112925820320944611.post-90528465229663175682008-04-08T20:33:00.000-06:002008-04-08T20:33:00.000-06:00Janiece, I've had enough therapy that I can help y...Janiece, I've had enough therapy that I can help you repeat it until you believe it! (laugh)<BR/><BR/>(calm soothing voice)<BR/>Let's make this your new mantra shall we? Breathe in. Good. Now say with me, 'All love is good, love that is one sided is not cheap, it just is.' Now wasn't that easy? Let's repeat that for twenty breaths while focusing on imaging ourselves in our happy place.<BR/>(end calm soothing voice)<BR/><BR/>(maniacal laughter)Random Michelle Khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13817444379694818074noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9112925820320944611.post-52601181623200925292008-04-08T18:28:00.000-06:002008-04-08T18:28:00.000-06:00Now you know why I majored in Philosophy. I am st...Now you know why I majored in Philosophy. <BR/><BR/>I am still looking. I have discovered that a lot of the baggage you carry around with you all the time will have an impact on any decision/behavior you are a part of...<BR/>(My english techer would be mortified by that last sentence...)mom in northernhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04120181704524007556noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9112925820320944611.post-16059136689550827142008-04-08T17:06:00.000-06:002008-04-08T17:06:00.000-06:00And like you told MWT, just because love is one wa...<EM>And like you told MWT, just because love is one way, doesn't mean it's cheap or wrong, it's just the way it is.</EM><BR/><BR/>Yeah, I'm real wise.<BR/><BR/>I can say that to MWT, and even mean it, but apply it to my own life/situation? Yeah, <EM>right.</EM>Janiecehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14190655869710465713noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9112925820320944611.post-73832451571730280182008-04-08T16:39:00.000-06:002008-04-08T16:39:00.000-06:00I've been thinking about this all day, and been un...I've been thinking about this all day, and been unable to come up with a rational response any more eloquent than, "you're right" :)<BR/><BR/>Love is hard sometimes, and sometimes--especially with family--it's not a two way street. But that doesn't make it any less important.<BR/><BR/>And like you told MWT, just because love is one way, doesn't mean it's cheap or wrong, it's just the way it is.Random Michelle Khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13817444379694818074noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9112925820320944611.post-33992301940831268032008-04-08T14:50:00.000-06:002008-04-08T14:50:00.000-06:00Well...the melodrama is a different topic.Hehe.Well...the melodrama is a different topic.<BR/><BR/>Hehe.Janiecehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14190655869710465713noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9112925820320944611.post-79818526076966858652008-04-08T14:48:00.000-06:002008-04-08T14:48:00.000-06:00Heheh. But in the grand scheme of things, all it r...Heheh. But in the grand scheme of things, all it really does is make me melodramatic.MWThttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09446603415730525882noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9112925820320944611.post-20747969860908561232008-04-08T13:47:00.000-06:002008-04-08T13:47:00.000-06:00MWT, if you perform an act of love, and the person...MWT, if you perform an act of love, and the person you did it for didn't appreciate the act, then it doesn't cheapen your act. You still acted with love, and that makes you a better person.Janiecehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14190655869710465713noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9112925820320944611.post-85097084064484508502008-04-08T13:04:00.000-06:002008-04-08T13:04:00.000-06:00Hmmm. Acts of love.I spent hours trying to gather ...Hmmm. Acts of love.<BR/><BR/>I spent hours trying to gather clicks for someone else's white dragon hatchling, and then it died, and I was very depressed about it.<BR/><BR/>a) It was a pixel dragon.<BR/>b) It was someone else's dragon.<BR/>c) <I>She</I> didn't even care that much about it. She wasn't even there at the end.<BR/><BR/>I've come to the conclusion that I care too much about all sorts of stupid things. :p A lot of them turn out in the end to be things that <I>only</I> I care about. I need to figure out how to stop that.MWThttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09446603415730525882noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9112925820320944611.post-47956791152054417222008-04-08T12:57:00.000-06:002008-04-08T12:57:00.000-06:00Marriage is 100/100, IMHO. :)Sometimes love is the...Marriage is 100/100, IMHO. :)<BR/><BR/>Sometimes love is the most meaningful when those actions are given during the toughest, most painful times. I speak as a parent on that one...<BR/><BR/>Thanks for the thought-provoking post.Jerihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02473415569376925543noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9112925820320944611.post-3727351988765680372008-04-08T12:18:00.000-06:002008-04-08T12:18:00.000-06:00Absolutely, Janiece. You've hit it on the nose.Th...Absolutely, Janiece. You've hit it on the nose.<BR/><BR/>Thank you for this.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9112925820320944611.post-89184795075066010112008-04-08T11:21:00.000-06:002008-04-08T11:21:00.000-06:00Cindi, the best description I ever heard was, "Mar...Cindi, the best description I ever heard was, "Marriage is a farmer and a flower. Sometimes you're the farmer, and sometimes you're the flower."Janiecehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14190655869710465713noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9112925820320944611.post-61293404458113721432008-04-08T11:19:00.000-06:002008-04-08T11:19:00.000-06:00There's a lot to think about there. Thanks for po...There's a lot to think about there. Thanks for posting this, Janiece!Anne C.https://www.blogger.com/profile/09444051201220766948noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9112925820320944611.post-54963946084649419782008-04-08T10:56:00.000-06:002008-04-08T10:56:00.000-06:00It's interesting, I always heard that a marriage i...It's interesting, I always heard that a marriage is 50/50, but I've come to the conclusion that that isn't true. Marriage is 90/10. Sometimes you give 90, sometimes you give 10.<BR/><BR/>It's just a question of who needs it most at the time.Cindi in COhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00857773418981487019noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9112925820320944611.post-59928934998797890402008-04-08T09:11:00.000-06:002008-04-08T09:11:00.000-06:00Yes. Acts. Plural.Yes. Acts. Plural.John the Scientisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03467337009577733553noreply@blogger.com