tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9112925820320944611.post688440783409191363..comments2024-01-27T04:41:17.522-07:00Comments on Hot Chicks Dig Smart Men: GuiltJaniecehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06223994862015217811noreply@blogger.comBlogger21125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9112925820320944611.post-59905311258367643522007-12-18T08:49:00.000-07:002007-12-18T08:49:00.000-07:00Cindi, I didn't take it that way. It's just the n...Cindi, I didn't take it that way. It's just the never-ending story. Only not as fun as the <A HREF="http://www.amazon.com/Neverending-Story-Firebird-Michael-Ende/dp/0140386335" REL="nofollow">real one</A>.Janiecehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14190655869710465713noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9112925820320944611.post-88134875343095599402007-12-18T08:43:00.000-07:002007-12-18T08:43:00.000-07:00Understood. I'm sorry I was flip.Understood. I'm sorry I was flip.Cindi in COhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00857773418981487019noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9112925820320944611.post-88355967293741741242007-12-17T13:31:00.000-07:002007-12-17T13:31:00.000-07:00Amy, you're on for the rolled tacos.Cindi, I'm try...Amy, you're on for the rolled tacos.<BR/><BR/>Cindi, I'm <EM>trying.</EM>Janiecehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14190655869710465713noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9112925820320944611.post-37584437597590948872007-12-17T13:21:00.000-07:002007-12-17T13:21:00.000-07:00Personally, I squashed that guilt gene flat at abo...Personally, I squashed that guilt gene flat at about age 13. As you know. You should try it. Shame, on the other hand...well, we need SOMETHING to keep us from devolving into an animal state. Heh.Cindi in COhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00857773418981487019noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9112925820320944611.post-74310186480466038482007-12-17T11:13:00.000-07:002007-12-17T11:13:00.000-07:00I see rolled tacos in your future! You know that t...I see rolled tacos in your future! You know that the ONE THING I can get out is Christmas cards, and you are so good at all teh other things that warrant cards. And I suck at those. Power on!The Mechanicky Galhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00301818656158916179noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9112925820320944611.post-53524583554904732982007-12-17T10:23:00.000-07:002007-12-17T10:23:00.000-07:00Cindi, I'm really off the hook with everyone - it'...Cindi, I'm really off the hook with everyone - it's all self-imposed guilt tripping around here. Because my guilt gene is <EM>just that finely developed.</EM>Janiecehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14190655869710465713noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9112925820320944611.post-66639571031027248432007-12-17T10:15:00.000-07:002007-12-17T10:15:00.000-07:00Hey Kiddo - for what it's worth, you're off the ho...Hey Kiddo - for what it's worth, you're off the hook with me, re: Christmas cards and gift baskets.Cindi in COhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00857773418981487019noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9112925820320944611.post-4485180531790152452007-12-16T11:39:00.000-07:002007-12-16T11:39:00.000-07:00Ooh. Look at the pretty gutter.Me Likes.Ooh. Look at the pretty gutter.<BR/><BR/>Me Likes.Nathanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00648438549121320566noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9112925820320944611.post-74467699373835289902007-12-16T11:16:00.000-07:002007-12-16T11:16:00.000-07:00Janiece - fixed the link. Sorry, doggone smart qu...Janiece - fixed the link. Sorry, doggone smart quotes snuck into the html.<BR/><BR/>And oh, I could write a whole week's posts on the subject of boundaries - but then again, it'd make everyone cranky with me. <BR/><BR/>Boundaries again. LOLJerihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02473415569376925543noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9112925820320944611.post-20201946240628969112007-12-16T10:29:00.000-07:002007-12-16T10:29:00.000-07:00Jeri, setting boundaries is an issue I've struggle...Jeri, setting boundaries is an issue I've struggled with my whole life. Saying "yes" when I should of said "no" is a chronic problem.<BR/><BR/>Nathan and Jim, you can stop snickering now. And get your minds out of the gutter.Janiecehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14190655869710465713noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9112925820320944611.post-47918009931953689102007-12-15T22:30:00.000-07:002007-12-15T22:30:00.000-07:00Janiece, very thought-provoking post - rather than...Janiece, very thought-provoking post - rather than gumming up your comment thread with my random thoughts I wrote them over on my blog.<BR/><BR/>But I do sometimes feel a little 'quilty' - but not enough that I don't try very hard to establish sane boundaries around holiday obligations.<BR/><BR/>atbdf - Association of Terminal Bureaucratic Dumb... ok, so much for free association on the verification.Jerihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02473415569376925543noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9112925820320944611.post-23477879244135483882007-12-15T19:06:00.000-07:002007-12-15T19:06:00.000-07:00Jim, I think if I was completely left to my own de...Jim, I think if I was completely left to my own devices, I would be a recluse and wouldn't give a shit about <EM>anyone.</EM> My "quilt" comes from the dichotomy of wanting to be a recluse and the reality that I don't think it's good for me and I try to make an effort to be a social human being.<BR/><BR/>Arm-chair psychology: Our Specialty.<BR/><BR/>And Jim, what Nathan said. Vid-e-o, Vid-e-o, Vid-e-o!Janiecehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14190655869710465713noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9112925820320944611.post-73116982367835054492007-12-15T16:22:00.000-07:002007-12-15T16:22:00.000-07:00Jim,Aren't you supposed to be making soup and emba...Jim,<BR/><BR/>Aren't you supposed to be making soup and embarrassing videos?Nathanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00648438549121320566noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9112925820320944611.post-77582743252999942232007-12-15T15:50:00.000-07:002007-12-15T15:50:00.000-07:00Oh, and antipasto squares, yeah.Oh, and antipasto squares, yeah.Jim Wrighthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11259550121437562338noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9112925820320944611.post-43291613976487512102007-12-15T15:49:00.000-07:002007-12-15T15:49:00.000-07:00Quilt? What's that?I really feel either quilt or ...Quilt? What's that?<BR/><BR/>I really feel either quilt or shame - well, ok, sometimes I think I should be spending more time with my kid. But that's about it.<BR/><BR/>Of course I think this probably comes from the fact that I mostly likely am not as much of a people person as you are, Janiece. Which probably makes me a much bigger jerk. :)<BR/><BR/>Nathan, my verification word is nszuxix, which to me sounds like an Alien ambassador or something.Jim Wrighthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11259550121437562338noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9112925820320944611.post-59984670579105152152007-12-15T14:46:00.000-07:002007-12-15T14:46:00.000-07:00Those do look mighty tasty. I will try them after...Those <EM>do</EM> look mighty tasty. I will try them after the holidays. Cheese and meat. Hmm...Janiecehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14190655869710465713noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9112925820320944611.post-46965673746651176692007-12-15T14:41:00.000-07:002007-12-15T14:41:00.000-07:00P.S. The antipasto squares are truly made of teh ...P.S. The antipasto squares are truly made of teh awesome. I will have to exercise much self control it I'm actually going to have any left to take with me tonight.<BR/><BR/>Here's a link:<BR/><BR/>http://tinyurl.com/2kmdmp<BR/><BR/>And be sure to read some of the reviews who had useful info on adjusting the recipe.<BR/><BR/>Try them. You'll like.<BR/><BR/>You're Welcome.<BR/>--------------------<BR/><BR/>Also, the word verification for this post was "bjmtyro". I must be nuts, 'cause that made me snort just a little.Nathanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00648438549121320566noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9112925820320944611.post-72170456461905496452007-12-15T12:56:00.000-07:002007-12-15T12:56:00.000-07:00Nathan, I don't go to people's houses empty-handed...Nathan, I don't go to people's houses empty-handed, either. I just wasn't raised that way, and I think it's the right thing to do. Jam is my "signature" gift, but I've also brought wine, dessert, whatever's appropriate for the occasion.<BR/><BR/>I have a most excellent jam-cookie recipe that allows me to bring cookies (my favorite) that include my jam (which I won't eat except for on these cookies). Yum.Janiecehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14190655869710465713noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9112925820320944611.post-57130119229579044162007-12-15T12:11:00.000-07:002007-12-15T12:11:00.000-07:00I've never done the Christmas/Hannukah/Season's Gr...I've never done the Christmas/Hannukah/Season's Greetings card thing. In a very minor way, I kind or resent receiving the damned things. "Why thank you very much for the lovely picture of your family and what did you do to that kid's hair". "Thank you for the long rambling letter informing me that Aunt Margie's hairdresser has shingles". "And isn't this a lovely <EM>Family Circus</EM> card that I know you just put so much thought into buying for me." And how long do I have to hold onto all these fucking things before I'm not a rat-bastard-asstard for throwing them out?<BR/><BR/>The one thing I actually <EM>do</EM> enjoy doing for others and/or receiving from others is food. I refuse to show up to any party without something I made and I try not to repeat. Today I'm making "Antipasto Squares" which I found on "All Recipes" dot com. I will, of course, monkey with the recipe because I'm congenitally unable to follow any recipe exactly.Nathanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00648438549121320566noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9112925820320944611.post-40427502202950970012007-12-15T11:49:00.000-07:002007-12-15T11:49:00.000-07:00Nathan, I wondered if you'd catch that. Hehe.You'...Nathan, I wondered if you'd catch that. Hehe.<BR/><BR/>You're fortunate that feeling guilty is not a part of your make-up. To me, guilt is something that is imposed from the <EM>outside,</EM> while shame is something that is imposed from the <EM>inside.</EM> <BR/><BR/>So guilt = bad, and shame = good.Janiecehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14190655869710465713noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9112925820320944611.post-25956255496514277062007-12-15T10:40:00.000-07:002007-12-15T10:40:00.000-07:00What is this famed Jewish Guilt you speak of? :-)W...What is this famed Jewish Guilt you speak of? :-)<BR/><BR/>When I'd whine for permission to do something as a child, my mother regularly fell back on "Go ahead. You're going to do what you want anyway." For years, I mistook this for sincere and honest permission, not an attempted guilt/shaming.<BR/><BR/>Guilt really doesn't work on me.<BR/><BR/>BTW, You're absolutely right about shame, especially when you feel it without any help from anyone else.Nathanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00648438549121320566noreply@blogger.com