tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9112925820320944611.post8827127036446712569..comments2024-03-19T03:18:54.509-06:00Comments on Hot Chicks Dig Smart Men: The Ties That BindJaniecehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06223994862015217811noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9112925820320944611.post-51895361514955094962011-03-29T22:28:39.830-06:002011-03-29T22:28:39.830-06:00Fuck'emFuck'emJuan Federicohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09040532701560944935noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9112925820320944611.post-51280951645492287382011-03-24T08:13:56.582-06:002011-03-24T08:13:56.582-06:00Rip that band-aid off Janiece. You have dealt with...Rip that band-aid off Janiece. You have dealt with a pretty heavy load with "That Thing", and previous "Things". <br />Sure it is disappointing, esp. when it is your family, but (and I stole this concept from you) emotional blackmail is just straight up bullshit.The Mechanicky Galhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00301818656158916179noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9112925820320944611.post-89083692854467123332011-03-23T09:36:21.346-06:002011-03-23T09:36:21.346-06:00The most relevant part of my eaten comment was:
I...The most relevant part of my eaten comment was:<br /><br />In the situations when I have been cut out of someone's life without explanation (both times by guys, big surprise there) it's been extremely perplexing.<br /><br />I'm not saying I'd rather be hurt by one of them saying "I'm tired of hanging out with a bitch," but it's something that I wonder about sometimes in the small hours.<br /><br />As a rejecter and a rejectee, I'd say you need to weigh the hurt of unexplained severance against the hurt of the explanation. Only you can make that decision.Anne C.https://www.blogger.com/profile/09444051201220766948noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9112925820320944611.post-81615259117291941932011-03-23T09:29:26.798-06:002011-03-23T09:29:26.798-06:00Mrs. Bitch, to be clear, this has nothing to do wi...Mrs. Bitch, to be clear, this has nothing to do with the Smart Man, but rather my birth family.<br /><br />Although I agree with your hypothetical scenario regarding Mr. Bitch, as well.Janiecehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14190655869710465713noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9112925820320944611.post-38567818640818735832011-03-22T21:00:31.970-06:002011-03-22T21:00:31.970-06:00I'm of the same opinion as everyone here -- hu...I'm of the same opinion as everyone here -- hurt who I love and you're toast, especially if the family member who's being a douche is relatively removed, like a cousin or aunt or something. <br /><br />I consider it a loyalty thing. The reversal would be if Mr. Bitch maintained friendly contact with a member of his family who consistently badmouthed me -- I'd be crushed.<br /><br />You've really made me think about this because I'm very close to my parents and sister and brother. I would really, really be torn if one of them decided they hated Mr. Bitch, or vice versa.Gristle McThornbodyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02975916963346215706noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9112925820320944611.post-38797187016421692702011-03-22T20:40:10.396-06:002011-03-22T20:40:10.396-06:00Life is to short to share it with asses. Breaking ...Life is to short to share it with asses. Breaking relationships are best done like removing bandages. One quick yank, a sharp pain, and then fading redness from the parting.<br /><br />Although I've only had to do it a few times in my life, and it wasn't fun any of those times. Moving around a lot as a kid and in our early adult life made it a little easier to leave behind people. However, in this day of instant contact through social media, it's a lot harder to just escape.Steve Buchheithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12999709767641212586noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9112925820320944611.post-36670754372883475022011-03-22T16:16:34.782-06:002011-03-22T16:16:34.782-06:00Damn it. I just had a long comment that was eaten...Damn it. I just had a long comment that was eaten by the internet. >:(Anne C.https://www.blogger.com/profile/09444051201220766948noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9112925820320944611.post-60347501002557186432011-03-22T14:56:00.038-06:002011-03-22T14:56:00.038-06:00Jeri put her finger on the sore.
I'm really ...Jeri put her finger on the sore. <br /><br />I'm really over this particular issue, and my own decision is pretty much made. I'm just waffling because choosing to emotionally divorce a member of my birth family is a tough call.Janiecehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14190655869710465713noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9112925820320944611.post-40521915032461557002011-03-22T12:44:25.109-06:002011-03-22T12:44:25.109-06:00What's really twisted is that I am willing to ...What's really twisted is that I am willing to put up with endless crap myself (see: eldest child, and rather lengthy painful relationship with ex) -- but am utterly unwilling to allow others to abuse someone else I love.<br /><br />Sigh. The problem w/ conversation is the old rule of thumb: is it necessary, is it true, is it kind? And my corollary, will it make a difference? If the recipient of said conversation is unwilling to talk, then it doesn't stand much chance of making a difference. :(Jerihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15118871494748262288noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9112925820320944611.post-84990121055437865612011-03-22T11:44:40.695-06:002011-03-22T11:44:40.695-06:00Is it worth a conversation or just a cutoff?Is it worth a conversation or just a cutoff?Staceyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16984097652321280760noreply@blogger.com